Differences

You ever notice differences in your relationship?

Like my husband never buys me flowers.  So I ask him why not? All these girls on my news feed get roses all the time, and I never do.  He's loving and considerate, so why not buy me flowers too. So I can brag with all the rest of them.  

He laughs at me and tells me that I don't like flowers, because they stink and they die quickly. And asks me why I want him to buy me something that I hate? His statement is completely true. I hate roses; I hate flowers.  I don't get the point of giving the beautiful gift that dies.  I don't understand what they represent.  And I have no clue why people smell them.  They smell like outside.  Outside does not smell that great! ...at least it doesn't in the South. Flowers to me are like heart chocolates, they seem like a good idea but they aren't.  

This isn't a long post, and the point isn't to diss roses.  It's just a funny reminder, that I have to stop comparing myself and my relationship to everyone elses.  My Jeffrey buys me chocolate and soda.  And he has this quirky joke where he buys me glass and stuffed roses, because they never die and they don't stink.  He cooks with me, and fixes me glasses of wine.  And most importantly, he's my selfie soulmate. That's worth 10 million of the most expensive roses to me.  

Every relationship has completely different dynamics. Everyone doesn't love like he loves.  Everyone isn't in love with me.  Everyone isn't married to me.  Why did I even try to compare his expressions of love to roses I wouldn't even appreciate?

Changes

Next month, my husband will be starting or looking into starting a new hobby.

Next month, I will be starting college online. 

We're going to be streched. stressed, and short on time together, but I'm excited. Three kids later, and we will both be doing something for us.  

With this big change, there are probably going to be small changes around the home.  He may play video games less, and I may spend less time lying awake at night doing nothing.  Instead, I'll be up at night, studying.  The kids bedtime may go up to 8pm instead of 9, and their entire bedtime routine will change.  I'll even enforce quiet time, our naptime alternative.  

But we'll still have our dinners daily, even if they end up only being 10 minutes long.  And every night my husband and I will lie and talk until he falls asleep on me.  I'm sure he'll still have to wrestle the boys almost daily, and spoil Noelle.  And I'll still be home all day with them.  We'll still attend the kiddie parties, story times, and play dates.  Even with these big changes our basic family dynamics and adventures will remain the same.  

I'm pretty excited for us to be doing something new, apart.  This is new for me, because I usually hate and fear chance.  But it's a lot easier to deal with, when you plan for it.  It is also a lot easier with Jeffrey by my side.  Besides, we have done every thing together since we became friends.  So to go and find different activities that don't involve the kids. is a pretty big step! It won't be a new year, new us.  But it will most definitely be a new year, new schedule...Come on, 2017! 

Just Because...

Life is good with us.
Life is simple with us.

I dedicated my other blog to crafts, activities, my children, drinks, and recipes.  I thought my man deserved his own blog.  So I could talk about him and life.  Somewhere for me to share and vent about life as a wife.  We've been married almost 3 years, and together almost 6.  So we're in no way new, but every day is new.  Every obstacle is new.

I just wanted a place to express my love for him, my faith in him, my many endeavours with him, and our cute selfies (or "usies").  So once a month-ish, I'll be here, posting something about my life as the carpenter's wife.
Just because...